I am no one's relationship Guru: It's just my opinion

After 36 years I know exactly what I desire. I don't want a partner like the culture says. I want a head/leader in a man. I just wanted to share that revelation. I no longer carry that strong independent woman state of mind. I embrace the feminine, wise, strong helper state of mind. I don't know if that makes sense. I personally think more women should embrace womanhood in this way, and let men be men, however as women, we have to discern if we are truly dealing with men or grown boys. If it is a grown boy, we have to let them go, and it's the same for men...they need women and not grown girls...aw man! Ppl ain't gonna like me when I start sharing this mindset! Lol I now realize that the true power and influence of a woman is through their femininity, encouraging words, and their loving energy. Do you know how captivated men become when a woman gives a warm smile and just says hello? Lol...Try it and see.